How Woman Delivers In A Country Without Payment.

I'm reading stories of women who are begging their husbands for money to pay for CS delivery.

Here is my take.

I live in a country where Healthcare is FREE. All my antenatal, childbirth (CS or vag), postnatal care, EVERYTHING is covered by the government. So, I don't get to pay a dime.

HOWEVER, if I lived in Nigeria where I had to pay for delivery, I'd go research how much it costs to do antenatal, delivery and postnatal care in a good hospital. Tell my husband or the person who will get me (or got me) pregnant, and have him save down that money.

If I'm carrying pregnancy, the LEAST you can do is pay for everything. I can't carry pregnancy and come and pay. The child isn't mine alone. So, what are you? Sperm donor?

I will also save my own money as BACKUP.

If on the delivery day, time to pay and you start talking shii, I'd use my money to pay to save myself and my baby, and ask the Nurse and doctors to kick you out for a start.

The child's last name will be MY NAME.

If we are married; divorce straight.

If we are not married, you will never see my pant again let alone me letting you get me pregnant again.

If you get me pregnant once and you don't treat me well, you will bear consequences, and you will never have the privilege of getting me pregnant again.

I don't understand women who claim that they got pregnant, their husbands treated them unkindly, then they go ahead to get pregnant by same man.

If a man didn't treat you well in your first pregnancy with his child, why would you go ahead to let him get you pregnant again? Make this make sense to me please.

Please Comment Ur experiences

A Lady Ones Said.

Just like many pregnant women, whenever I'm pregnant, I suffer serious food aversion.

Usually, without pregnancy, I cook about 80% of what me and my family eat because I love cooking. My husband cooks the rest or we eat out.

However, as soon as conception happens and I get pregnant, I begin to suffer food aversion.

I can't cook, and if I cook, I can't eat it. I would even feel like throwing the food in the bin.

In my first trimester of pregnancy with my son, I was in Nigeria. I woke up one morning and threw every food in the fridge/freezer away because the sight of them were irritating to me. I couldn't cook and we bought food, my husband or his relatives cooked.

I spent second and third trimesters in Canada till I had my baby.

I saved up some money to enjoy my pregnancy, about $2,000. ALL the money went on ordering foods. My husband added extra money for me to keep using to order food since he wasn't around to cook, and even if he was around, he might finish cooking and I wouldn't like it.

For me, food aversion is worse in the first half of my pregnancy.

Now that I'm planning to get pregnant again, I've saved up $3,000 to buy food. I've forced my husband to give me at least $3,000 because nah him give me bellé and he has to make sure I eat. He has paid part into my account, and will pay the rest. After he balances the money, then I can open legs to collect another one.

The three things I hate most about pregnancy are 1. Food aversion,  2. Heartburn and 3. Nausea.

I'm a foodie who loves quality food. Imagine me ditching jollof rice for oil-less Okra, ditching beans for mashed potatoes and cheese. Just be craving yeye things because I'm pregnant.

Or the heartburn. I love pepper. But I usually stop eating pepper as soon as I get pregnant because for every meal with pepper I eat, I suffer heartburn for 24-hours. My doctor prescribes a medication for me to reduce heartburn.

I told my husband that if men could get pregnant, nothing anyone would have told me to do this. He would have been the one to carry the pregnancy.

If I had the option, I'd prefer to pay 100% bills and still do chores. All my partner has to do is carry pregnancy and do minor chores.

So, as soon as I carry bellé, I'd stop paying bills till I give birth. Because the thought of going through that journey for another 9 months ehn. But, I have to because I want a second baby.

My pregnancy taught me that one of the best questions you can ask a pregnant woman is "WHAT DO YOU WANT TO EAT?"

When I was pregnant with my son, I had two friends that would call me often to ask "Nk, what do you want to eat?" One was a cook, he would cook anything I mention and bring to me. The other one nor dey enter kitchen. She knows my food plugs, so she would usually just send money to them to deliver to me anything I say I want to eat.

Since after I had my baby, if I see a pregnant woman I am close to, as much as possible, I cook for her or buy her food.

Because, the best gift you can give to me when I'm pregnant is FOOD or money to buy FOOD prepared to my specifications.

Call that pregnant woman today and ask her what she wants to eat. Then, COOK FOR HER or BUY HER FOOD.

All the people who cooked for me or bought me food when I was pregnant earned a special spot in my heart.

Moral of the story...

Nor be sey I dey tell una sey I don carry o, but come to my inbox today and ask me "Nk, what do you want to eat?"

If you live in Canada, I can give you the contact of my food plug so that you can pay for the food.

If you live in Winnipeg, you can cook it yourself or order for me.

If you live outside Canada, just send me money.

At this point in my life, FOOD is the most important thing to me.

Plover Bird And Crocodile

Plover bird is a friend of  Crocodile.  Crocodile needs after each of its fatty meals to keep its teeth clean from the remnants of food, which can remain for long periods of time & harm the crocodile. But it is a wonderful creation of the Creator - the Great architect of the universe - to grant  crocodile it's own skilled doctor, who is known as *plover bird*.  ‎This bird hovers in places where crocodiles are present, and as soon as crocodile finishes eating its meal, it opens its mouth so that its little doctor stands on its lower jaw and brushes its teeth very skillfully. The bird gets a delicious meal, and the crocodile gets clean teeth!   ‎Who taught this crocodile not to close its mouth on the plover?!   ‎This is free reciprocal safe pragmatism !!!  ‎ Who taught the bird to stand on the mouth of the crocodile with such boldness, knowing that it will not eat it?

We need each other ,no matter how highly placed; enjoy.

 

MINORITY

 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 #𝐌𝐈𝐍𝐎𝐑𝐈𝐓𝐘 𝐕𝐈𝐄𝐖 𝐂𝐀𝐍 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐃𝐀𝐘, 𝐃𝐎𝐍'𝐓 𝐊𝐄𝐄𝐏 𝐈𝐓 𝐓𝐎 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅.

President Idi Amin once wanted to change the name of Uganda to "Idi". 

Except for one man, Maliyamungu, everybody else who was close to him feared to challenge that decision!

Maliyamungu said to him, "Your Excellency Sir, have you heard of a country called 'Cyprus'?"

With a surprised look, Amin asked, "What has Cyprus got to do with my decision to change our country's name to 'Idi'?"

Maliyamungu said, "Well, the people of Cyprus are called Cypriots. If you change Uganda to 'Idi', all of us, including you, will be called 'Idiots'! So, please, let's maintain our current name!"

Idi Amin said, "Aaah...! Maliyamungu! You are very intelligent! In fact, more intelligent than everyone in Uganda except me! Let's leave it!"```

He could have lost his life for expressing his view, and we would have had idiots as fellow Africans.

Even now, don't keep your views to yourself. Express yourself. Remember that even the dead clock is correct twice everyday.

Treat Ur Wife Softlyn.

 Aristoplana.

Before I married my wife, I was advised by a senior friend of mine not to allow my wife stress herself unnecessarily.

He said, anything money can do for you to make your wife relax, pay for it and don't stress your wife.

That evening, while I was discussing with my fiancèe, I shared my friend's thoughts with her.

And she was so happy. 

She said, " Exactly oh, I no just wan tell you, make you no feel say, I lazy"

That minute, I assured her she won't clean the house or even wash clothes as my wife.

She was so happy.

IB too like soft life🤣

Fortunately, we got a good help after marriage.

We both agreed she will not live with us.

She would come in the morning,  close by 2pm everyday.

Except, when my wife wants to cook, the help will stay back to arrange things, running errands and wash plates thereafter.

She agreed.

Also, we opted for a washing machine.

And so far, na me dae mostly do the laundry.

I wrote this because, those days, when we see maids in people's houses, we refer to the wives as lazy.

Unknown to us that wives are priceless.

Gone are those days, when we use chores to measure the wife materialness of a woman.

Na poverty mentality be that.

Show love to people.

I WEPT AFTER READING THIS JUDGE'S SENTENCE ON A 15 YEAR OLD BOY...

This was a fifteen year old boy.... He was caught stealing bread from a store. 

On trying to escape from the hold of the guard, a shelf of the store was also broken.

The judge heard the crime and asked the boy, “Did you really steal something, a loaf of bread and cheese?”

The boy responded by looking down.;- “Yes.”

Judge: - “Why?”

Boy: - “I needed it.”

Judge: - “Couldn't you have bought?”

Boy:- “There was no money.”

Judge: - “Take it from the family.”

Boy: - “There is only a mother in the house. Sick and unemployed.

Judge: - “You don't do anything?”

Boy: - “Used to wash a car. When I took a day off to take care of my mother, I was fired.”

Judge:- “Don’t you ask someone for help?”

Boy: - “Had left the house since morning, went to about fifty (50) people, but no help; so, I decided to take this step at the very end.”

When the arguments ended, the judge began to pronounce the verdict;

... “the theft and especially the stealing of Bread by a hungry boy is a very shameful crime and we are all responsible for this crime."

Every person in the court, including me, is guilty and a perpetrator, so every person present here is fined ten dollars each.  No one can get out of here without giving ten dollars.”

Saying this, the judge took ten dollars out of his own pocket and then picked up the pen and started writing name accordingly:

- ‘In addition, I fine the store a thousand dollars for handing over a hungry child to the Police.’

 *‘If the penalty is not deposited within 24 hours, the court will order to seal the store.’ also the Police is fined the same amount for charging a hungry boy to court.

'By giving the full amount of fine to this boy, the court asks for forgiveness from that boy.'

 After hearing the verdict, tears were pouring from the eyes of the people present in the court, that boy's  handcuffs were also untied. The boy was watching the judge again and again, who came out hiding his tears.

Are our society, systems and courts ready for such a decision?

  if a hungry person is caught stealing bread, then the people of that country should be ashame.

 If this touches your heart:

chose someone to give succour... People around you should not sleep without food’

PLEASE I AM BEGGING YOU IF YOU'RE MOVED BY THIS MESSAGE, BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ELSE, LOOK AROUND YOU AND MAKE SOMEBODY HAPPY, NO MATTER HOW SMALL, YOU ARE BETTER THAN SOME PEOPLE, YOU DON'T NEED TO BE RICH TO GIVE FROM THE LITTLE  YOU HAVE. THANK YOU.